This week’s keys focus on the topic of shadows – how to handle and tame them and how to do it in a healthy way. I also talk about how to use love languages in a different way to fulfill your own love containers. I also ask if real love is a reality or a dream? I also found huge inspiration from the movie ‘Letters to Julliet’ and share the letter. Please read and share in your circles and do the homework, to change the quality of your life already today, not tomorrow!

Shadows

This time I will talk more about shadows. I facilitated a wave dance this week.

We took this as a new topic for the Wave Dance. There was a possibility to observe and dance with your shadows. How many of the readers have done that?

What are shadows for me?

Shadows are the sides of ourselves which we usually suppress or hide. These can be weak qualities or something which is not approved by the collective public moral or other norms.

But what if we give our shadows a safe place to come out, dance, play and talk? What would happen then?

How many times do we give them a free flow to express and voice and move themselves?

I figured I had not done that for a long time. It was about time for them to rise their heads and explode as their storage was full.

We usually suppress our shadows, we hide them, we are not proud of them. All of us who danced with our shadows today had amazing experiences and insights. Later that night we also had a goddess evening, where we continued with the same topic. It was so enriching and nourishing for me to hear that other women have similar issues and are aware of it and had different tools what to do with it and how to handle it. I am so grateful that we have managed to create such a sacred sisterhood space, where we can talk and share about stuff like that. I think every woman should have that in their community and what would happen in the world if we would have that? Imagine!

So what if you too find a safe place to express your shadows? What would happen then?

For me that would make me as a woman much more balanced and healthy. In Hawaii we walked to the lava fields and then screamed our lungs empty. I so enjoyed it, as I could get everything out of me, which I had suppressed.

We should all have at least one person on this planet to whom we could call or talk with when we have the boiling experience and things are overflowing. The other should then just listen, no comments, no judgments and be grateful for the experience.

I personally also feel that conscious women should help men to learn how to hold space for a woman who is processing shadows. Once they learn to do that, then the woman can feel that the man becomes a rock, where she can freely express all of herself – the shadows, the goddess Kali, Pele and more – also the light. Then the light and darkness will dance, because even when we close one of our eyes, the shadows will be there anyways. So it is better to learn to become friends with them, acknowledge them and maybe even make them work for us.

What I have discovered is that shadows are like people. They need attention, time and energy. If you give them regularly some time, energy and attention, they will calm down and you can live with them like with peaceful neighbors.

In the new energy – the matters of the shadows will come up more to the surface, as the spirit is ascending the body from the inside out. We can not run from it and putting our head under the sand does not help either, or if so, only for a moment or two, but would not be sustainable in the longer run.

Life is not only pink and positive and happy. There are bumps on the road, there are cloudy days, there can be thunderstorms. It just all is. Whether it is bad or good, it is for us to decide. We judge it and we form it with that judgment. Without judgment we can just let it be, redefine everything, whether it is ourself, our life or our relations. From that new rebirth will happen, and we understand that the shadows will always be there, it is just up to us whether we let them tame us or we tame them and actually use them as our assets instead of weaknesses.

Real love – a dream or reality?

I have been looking for real love outside of me for the last 15 years. I have travelled all over the world, I have met many people, had many relationships and still question it.

 During this last week I have discovered that the main core essence of that love resides in me. If I put all the energy to work on me, take care of me, love me, then the outside world will send me reflections of that same energy in ways I did not expect.

Taking care of me, I do not mean in a selfish way. I mean in a way which respects everyone around me.

I am an intelligent woman, with two higher university degrees, I have traveled around the world, but deep inside I am just a fragile, vulnerable girl or a woman, who is here ready to be loved or love. Fully 100% and now, not later. If there is no man or woman our there who would love to explore, deep dive into it NOW, then I do it with myself. It is a bit lonelier and not that much fun, but I can always count on myself. When I am married to myself, it would be stupid to divorce from myself. I am not going anywhere and I can rely on me. It makes me feel so good and gives me back my peace and serenity.

The only thing is that I am not yet married to myself, so I have to figure out how I am gonna propose to myself so it would be impressive enough.

Processing all that I happened to see this movie called ‘Letters To Julliet’. You can watch it here.

‘Dear Friends. 50 years ago I went to Juliet’s house in Verona. I wrote her a letter and asked a question. Two months ago I received a reply. Without that letter, none of us would be here today. Here is the letter:

‘Dear Clair, what and if are two words as non-threatening as words can be. But put them together side by side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life. what if, what if, what if. I do not know how your story ended but if what you felt then was true love, then it is never too late. If it was true then, why wouldn’t it be true now? You need only the courage to follow your heart. I do not know what a love like Juliet’s feels like, a love to leave loved ones for, a love to cross oceans for, but I would like to believe if I ever were to feel it that I had the courage to seize it. And Claire if you did not, I hope one day that you will.’

Home assignment

This last week I have come up with something which has created new results to me and some of the people who are testing it out as well.

You may have heard about the 5 love languages?

Take the test of the 5 love languages here. Find out the first 3 and if possible do the next home assignment for the next 30 days.

Take these 3 love languages and start to give all of that to yourself.

If your first love language is affirmations, give yourself affirmations and pat yourself on the shoulder if you do something fun and good and if you look beautiful.

If your first love language is service, then give yourself service – women go and get your nails done, men go and get your car fixed and etc.

If your first love language is touch, massage yourself, or hug yourself, caress yourself from toe till top.

If your first love language is quality time, spend some quality time with yourself and do what you love!

After you have done it for at least 30 days you may discover that your own love storage will be full. In that state, you are much more attractive to other people who are on that similar level or working towards it. This way you are also going to be not accusing others not giving you what you need or demanding it. As you give yourself what you need and if not, you should accuse yourself not filling your love containers. If they choose to give you something you need and speak your love language be grateful and happy for that, but do not depend on it.

This makes yourself much more independent and more stronger on your own platform. You will probably also be much more grateful for everything what comes from others.

The truth is that when you become needy and turn into a hunting mode towards others, you actually start to push everything and everyone away from you. When you start to give yourself, then you turn into a cat, who understands that chasing the tale does not get you further, maybe just lose some calories. The cat realises that to just lay in the sun is enough to be happy. If someone comes to pet the cat, is nice, but it does not make its life miserable if it doesn’t happen. The cat who is not running for food or being caressed is much more inviting for us to do it. The cat is using then the pulling energy, to attract what is benefiting it.

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I am Crystal Ra Laksmi. Looking for real love and myself out in the world I am now finding that my love resides in me and that I have found myself at home inside me.

I am embracing my shadows, listening to them, dancing with them and taming them. I am also understanding that I am responsible to fulfill my own love tanks. If I do take good care of it, the rest flows with ease and glory. I have always some of it to share with others. With that I take care of myself and the world. What would happen if you would do that too? What would happen to the world?

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