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This month I have been doing some more creative writing and one of the techniques which helps to handle it better is to observe something in your environment and write a story about it.
It is first of May here in Hawaii, known as a lei day. But today I will take into focus another new friend of mine here. It is called ‘the fruit of the angels.’ I did not know much about this fruit, but living here in Hawaii has introduced me to this fruit in so many ways. I would love to share this exploration journey with all my readers. Continue reading
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Aaaah. What happened to time? Suddenly I realize we are almost heading towards the mid February and I am behind with all of my to do lists!!! I am a bit overwhelmed and stressed, but I guess that is normal if you are a person who has many balls in the air at all times! I am practicing more conscious time handling and it is taking time to get used to it. This month has been really boosting my confidence through a roof. I have challenged myself in so many ways. Read more how! I also discovered something funny about my insecurity during this month. Continue reading
I am so excited to introduce to all my fans a talented Estonian-born brand manager and designer based in New York City – Valev Laube. We have not yet met each other in one physical location, but we were introduced by powerful women based in New York, like an Estonian dancer Diina Tamm, artist Jaanika Peerna and a power-woman behind the Estonian Cultural Days in New York Kadri Napritson-Acuna.
We have followed each other’s lives with Valev via social media. I instantly admired Valev’s courage to create bigger events and choose challenges which most people would run from.
Even though I thought I am not going to produce more of these kind of interviews he inspired me to make an exception and here it is!
Valev Laube is an Estonian-born brand manager, artist, and designer currently based in New York. He’s an enthusiastic creative mind whose digital designs and social media projects have been the cornerstone of many New York-based festivals, events, and company brands.
Read more about who he is and what does he do and contribute to make this planet a better place to be? Continue reading
The movie tried to document what is happening to the coral reef in different parts of the world and the results were shocking. If it continues like this – the reefs in the world may be dead in 30 years time!!!! Coral reefs are super important to our ecosystems in the oceans and they are like the forests of the sea. Take these out and you will have no fish and to put it simply – the whole planet’s ecosystem is in danger.
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I gifted myself a whole weekend of systems and organization as well family constellation work with Fransesca Mason Boring in a beautiful eco Volcano Retreat center Akuaha run by Darshan Mendoza here on the Big Island of Hawaii. It was a wonderful weekend which also inspired me in so many ways. Continue reading
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This time I felt I would love to write differently. As this last month has been a very tantra theme month for me (because of Estonia events), I thought to explore this topic a bit deeper and in a more creative way. I will let my female energy to lead my words and I hope it will reach to the hearts of those people who are ready to receive it. Continue reading
I hope everyone had wonderful holidays. I wish everyone a happy abundant year full of possibilities of fulfilling your dreams!
I will now take a little deeper look back at the year of 2016. First I tell you more about my personal journey and then more of the general – how I observed this year was for my clients and the world. Continue reading
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Have you made a silly mistake recently in your writing or with your career? Is there a mistake you’ve made more than once? I’ll share one of mine: When I type fast, I often hit the wrong key. This happens the most with the word “shut.” I accidentally type an “i” where the “u” should be. That makes for some interesting sentences and a lot of laughter when I catch it. Continue reading
This month’s keys are about the numbers of the month, how to activate the ‘spiritual leg’, how to dissolve the resistance with the knowledge of the elements and how to prevent the forgiveness process. In addition what else is needed to be overlooked, in order to create the maximum flow.
If this story inspires you, please share it on your wall. This way we can not only inspire, but also take the steps in order to change what needs to be in order to live the dream. Continue reading
This week’s keys talk about my dolphin experience and how every reader could use this for your own benefit. New time is a time of Aquarius which brings higher frequencies with it and dolphins are the mammals, who can help us on this road. Warning: Reading this article will rise your frequency! Continue reading
Anthropologists’ target should be to focus on topics which are relevant in the society, and as soon as I saw this article, I thought it is time again to talk about this topic in public.
The story is up in The Independent (18th of August, 2013) ‘Monogamy is outdated, according to controversial BBC investigation’. Read it before you read my comment to it.
My comments about the story
In 2008 I visited Zegg eco village, where they practise free love and polygamous relations in East Germany.
In this village they have a ‘love house’ and they have ‘flirting parties’ there. In that house they have different rooms, where people can do what their spirits and bodies would love to do. The main target for the village has been to unite the spirituality and sexuality. Whether they have accomplished that or not I would let others to decide.
As I have studied anthropology, we had to read loads of stories in our curriculum about the cultural examples about different cultures and some of it was also about polygamy, where this is more of a practical key how to make the everyday life work sustainably.
For example in Tibet, where most of the men are out in the mountains with the cattle part of the time. In some of the villages they have agreements, where men are divided and some of them are up in the mountains and the others take care of the women and children in the village. One woman may have two or three men. When the child is born, it is not important, who is the father of the child as they will take care of all the children equally.
When I started to discover this topic on my own, I got loads of judgments from other people (most of them were in conventional relationships and judged me exploring it as being a hooker). During this journey I got into total conflict with myself till I travelled to Hawaii to visit a local healer.
He saw this as actually part of my bigger mission – to activate people like that – to be in relation with many several people at the same time while being in the flow. One after the other I noticed the pattern. I got to know a new man, we started dating. After some short period of time we had to break up and right after that they found their perfect long term partner. It happened over and over again.
My question to him was: ‘Why is it so
difficult for me to find one long term partner?’
He asked me: ‘Do you need him this way?
Maybe you are a natural poly person?’
On top of that I discovered I am bisexual as well. So I tried to put together all the different parts. I had the possibility to live together with an amazing man and a woman for one month in Hawaii. This was the most functional and happy time in my life. We had a total trust, care and honesty. The practical life was much easier and nicer, because we had a total team work and cooperation happening at all times.
The key for this cohabitation was this: we had very similar world views, we were all very conscious and sexually healthy and emotionally balanced people. We knew it would be just this one month, but I did not experience any jealousy at that time, drama or cheating at all.
Jealousy has roots in the uncertainty and self value. If one is certain in him or herself and the self value is in place, there is no possibility for jealousy. This is just my viewpoint.
This experience encouraged me, that this is not only utopia, but a real possible reality, if I choose so. I think myself that it is very natural to be both with the woman as the man as it may balance the woman nicely. It may not be suitable for everyone, but it is a possible choice.
During my world travel I have actually met many of these very opened and expansive couples and people. It was a relief to know that there is nothing wrong with me and there are more of us out there in the world. We are looking for each other, maybe one day to create communities where we could live and co-habitat together. No this is not just hippie time coming back again. It is a conscious choice and creation.
Then I thought that maybe the idea of going deeply into a relation shift with one person is just an utopia as I have imagined, or some kind of implant which has been put into us by religions and systems or is it something else?
One is for sure, the utopia of monogamy (the old version, where you can not be with others sexually) keeps many people in boxes and frames. But may work for some.
Take for example honesty. Watch some soap operas and bring in some real honesty. The whole idea of a soap opera disappears. Drama disappears. When two people who are in the relationship fall in love into an external person, it does not mean, that you should leave one and hide the other one. Where have we got with this hiding?
I loved how they handled this topic in the movie ‘The Great Gatsby’. Everyone cheated on everyone, basically publicly and when they all got to the point to act according to the heart, it was all about the drama and the ownership waves hit over the head, which created even more drama.
My vision and sense is that monogamy may disappear even faster than 10 years. We expand in our spirit and body faster than we could think. In this expansion, we start to live a life without fear, where we do not have rules, have only the agreements and an opened communication. People could use the 4 V system, which would build a foundation to the sustainable harmony and balance on all levels in our life. (If you would love to get this system, register your name to the list on my news list on my webpage’s first page).
Everyone will of course choose which kind of relationship suits them. It is important to be tolerant. If someone chooses something conventional and it makes them happy, then why not and if not, let them be in peace and live their life too?
The biggest key to change the world is actually ECSTASY AND HAPPINESS. How we get there, it is up to the choices. If these choices are done in consciousness, balance and honesty towards yourself and others, done with care, from your heart, it can be the main key to create the butterfly effect and activate it in the whole world.
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Please share with me your thoughts, experiences about monogamy and polygamy!
How do you sense the future ‘relationship model’ develops?
What kind of relationship model works for you right now?
When it works, why?
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These times we are now facing – full of turmoil, chaos, violence and so much drama in the world would benefit greatly from this amazing Hawaiian technique!
Two years ago I heard about the therapist, who healed a whole department full of patients, who had the criminal background, as well as the psychic disorders. What was fascinating, was that the therapist managed to heal them even without meeting the patients.
Psychologist, who did some research on the patient’s files, looked inside of himself, to find the reason, how he had created that particular disease.
When I heard about this first time, I thought this must be some kind of a city legend. How could someone heal someone else, by healing yourself? How would anyone, even the best self help master manage to heal a psychopath with a criminal background?
This was completely non understandable and not logical, so I just left the story. One year later, the story came back to me. I heard that the therapist had used the Hawaiian healing method, called ho’oponopono. I had never heard of it, but I could not leave the story this time. If there was any truth in it, I had to get to know about it.
I understood about the ‘full responsibility’ situation, where I am responsible for what I am thinking and doing. Everything outside of me, is not up to me. I think most people see ‘responsibility like that’. We are responsible for our actions, not for someone else – but seems that is not the case!
Hawaiian therapist, who healed these people, taught me about the full responsibility from another perspective. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.
Our first phone conversation took almost an hour. I wanted him to tell me the whole story of him working as a therapist. He explained that he had worked 4 years in the local state hospital. The department, where the psychopaths with the criminal background were held, was dangerous.
Usual story with this was the following. Psychologists left their positions just one month after they started working there. Many of the employees were on sick leave most of the time or just left work. Most people walked in the department leaning against the wall, being afraid of the patient’s attacks. This was not a very pleasant place – whether to live, visit or work.
Dr. Len told me, that he did not meet any of the patients. He just read their files in his office. While reading, he worked on himself and the patients started to heal. Couple of months later, the patients who had to be tied up before, could walk freely. Others who had to take loads of medicines did not have to do that any more. The others who seemed to be impossible, could be signed out. I was astonished.
This was not all.The changes influenced everything else as well. The employees wanted to come to work. Constant change of employees and quitting stopped. In the end they had more employees than patients, as the number of patients decreased and all the employees started to work again. For now this department is closed.
Then I had to ask a million dollar question:
‘So what did you do inside of you, what caused the change in these people?’ He answered: ‘I just healed this part of me, which they had created,’ he said.
I could not understand. Dr. Len explained, that in order to take full responsibility, it means you have to be responsible for everything what you have in life, as it is there – it is your responsibility.
So to say – the whole world is your creation.
This was too much to swallow. To take responsibility for your own words and actions is one thing, but to take responsibility of all the actions and words what is in my life, is another thing.
Though it is true that if you take full responsibility for your life, then all what you see, taste, touch or experience whatever way, is your responsibility, as it is in your life. These would not exist, if these would not be part of the projected outer world. The problem is not in them, but you. In order to change them, you have to change you.
I understand that this is difficult to accept, and to live accordingly. To accuse it is much easier. I understood while talking to Dr Len, that healing and his ho’oponopono healing method actually means loving yourself.
Watch this little video here – what to do when your problem will not let go here:
‘If you would love to change your life, you have to heal your life. If you would love to heal someone, even a criminal with psychic problems, you can do so by healing yourself.’
I asked Dr Len how he did heal himself. I wanted to know exactly what he did, when he looked into patient’s files. I just repeated: ‘ I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you’, he explained. I could not believe that was all. ‘That was all,’ he said.
Seems that self loving is the best way to develop yourself and if you do that, you can also change the world around you.
I will bring an example how that works. Someone sent me an email, which made me upset. Earlier I would have dealt with it by working on my energy centers and trying to be reasonable to that person who sent this email.
This time I decided to use Dr Len’s method. I started to repeat: ‘ I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and thank you,’ not addressing it to anyone particular.
I just tried to activate some love, to heal something inside of me, which had created this situation. One hour later I got the response from that same person. He apologised for the last email. Remember: I did not do anything outside of me, for him to apologise in front of me. I even did not answer to his email.
Just simply saying ‘ I love you’ I had healed something in me, which was created by that person. Later I participated in a seminar by Dr Len about the ho’oponopono. Right now he is 70 years old and he is respected as a shaman grandfather and he has pulled back from active life. He loved my book (‘The Attractor Factor’).
He said that when I develop myself, the vibration of my books will rise and everyone can feel it when they read it. Shortly: if I do that, it will happen to my readers as well. I asked him how is it with the books which are out there already.
He said: ‘These are not out there somewhere,’ once again astonishing me with his deep presence. ‘These are still inside of you.’
To conclude. The outer world does not exist. It would take a whole book to explain this technique in full detail, as it deserves. So for now it should be enough to say, that in case you would love to change something in your life, there is only one place where you can turn it: it is inside of you. If you do that, do that with love!
Father, Mother and Child as One…
If I and my family, my relatives, my ancestors have insulted you –
your family, your relatives or your ancestors in our thoughts,
our our words or actions,
from the beginning of the time till this moment –
we ask your forgiveness!
Let it dissolve, break free and cut away all the negative memory blockages,
energies and vibrations and transform these into balanced light.
As it is said, it is done and cleared.
I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you!
Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.
Analyze it and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.
Come through all generations of time and eternity.
Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.
Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present. Filled with light and truth.
God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions.
Forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to this, these feelings thoughts.
Please share with me if you have any similar stories and if you have experienced the Hawaiian healing technique?
Would you be interested to adventure to the birth land of Ho’oponopono with me this winter and practise it there and even meet some of the local kahunas (local healers)? Read more about it here!
Happy me in Hawaii, after taking a course in Hawaiian healing techniques with the local Kahuna Harry Jim