Is Monogamy Outdated?

Posted on 30/08/2013 by Crystal

I wrote couple of articles about the free love some years ago in the Estonian media, as well as about tantra, but these did not get much of a feedback then.

Anthropologists’ target should be to focus on topics which are relevant in the society, and as soon as I saw this article, I thought it is time again to talk about this topic in public.

The story is up in The Independent (18th of August, 2013) ‘Monogamy is outdated, according to controversial BBC investigation’. Read it before you read my comment to it.

My comments about the story

In 2008 I visited Zegg eco village, where they practise free love and polygamous relations in East Germany.

In this village they have a ‘love house’ and they have ‘flirting parties’ there. In that house they have different rooms, where people can do what their spirits and bodies would love to do. The main target for the village has been to unite the spirituality and sexuality. Whether they have accomplished that or not I would let others to decide.

As I have studied anthropology, we had to read loads of stories in our curriculum about the cultural examples about different cultures and some of it was also about polygamy, where this is more of a practical key how to make the everyday life work sustainably.

For example in Tibet, where most of the men are out in the mountains with the cattle part of the time. In some of the villages they have agreements, where men are divided and some of them are up in the mountains and the others take care of the women and children in the village. One woman may have two or three men. When the child is born, it is not important, who is the father of the child as they will take care of all the children equally.

When I started to discover this topic on my own, I got loads of judgments from other people (most of them were in conventional relationships and judged me exploring it as being a hooker). During this journey I got into total conflict with myself till I travelled to Hawaii to visit a local healer.

He saw this as actually part of my bigger mission – to activate people like that – to be in relation with many several people at the same time while being in the flow. One after the other I noticed the pattern. I got to know a new man, we started dating. After some short period of time we had to break up and right after that they found their perfect long term partner. It happened over and over again.

My question to him was: ‘Why is it so

difficult for me to find one long term partner?’

He asked me: ‘Do you need him this way?

Maybe you are a natural poly person?’

On top of that I discovered I am bisexual as well. So I tried to put together all the different parts. I had the possibility to live together with an amazing man and a woman for one month in Hawaii. This was the most functional and happy time in my life. We had a total trust, care and honesty. The practical life was much easier and nicer, because we had a total team work and cooperation happening at all times.

The key for this cohabitation was this: we had very similar world views, we were all very conscious and sexually healthy and emotionally balanced people. We knew it would be just this one month, but I did not experience any jealousy at that time, drama or cheating at all.

Jealousy has roots in the uncertainty and self value. If one is certain in him or herself and the self value is in place, there is no possibility for jealousy. This is just my viewpoint.

This experience encouraged me, that this is not only utopia, but a real possible reality, if I choose so. I think myself that it is very natural to be both with the woman as the man as it may balance the woman nicely. It may not be suitable for everyone, but it is a possible choice.

During my world travel I have actually met many of these very opened and expansive couples and people. It was a relief to know that there is nothing wrong with me and there are more of us out there in the world. We are looking for each other, maybe one day to create communities where we could live and co-habitat together. No this is not just hippie time coming back again. It is a conscious choice and creation.

Then I thought that maybe the idea of going deeply into a relation shift with one person is just an utopia as I have imagined, or some kind of implant which has been put into us by religions and systems or is it something else?

One is for sure, the utopia of monogamy (the old version, where you can not be with others sexually) keeps many people in boxes and frames. But may work for some.

Take for example honesty. Watch some soap operas and bring in some real honesty. The whole idea of a soap opera disappears. Drama disappears. When two people who are in the relationship fall in love into an external person, it does not mean, that you should leave one and hide the other one. Where have we got with this hiding?

I loved how they handled this topic in the movie ‘The Great Gatsby’. Everyone cheated on everyone, basically publicly and when they all got to the point to act according to the heart, it was all about the drama and the ownership waves hit over the head, which created even more drama.

My vision and sense is that monogamy may disappear even faster than 10 years. We expand in our spirit and body faster than we could think. In this expansion, we start to live a life without fear, where we do not have rules, have only the agreements and an opened communication. People could use the 4 V system, which would build a foundation to the sustainable harmony and balance on all levels in our life. (If you would love to get this system, register your name to the list on my news list on my webpage’s first page).

Everyone will of course choose which kind of relationship suits them. It is important to be tolerant. If someone chooses something conventional and it makes them happy, then why not and if not, let them be in peace and live their life too?

The biggest key to change the world is actually ECSTASY AND HAPPINESS. How we get there, it is up to the choices. If these choices are done in consciousness, balance and honesty towards yourself and others, done with care, from your heart, it can be the main key to create the butterfly effect and activate it in the whole world.

Maybe it is about time, where we have to become Winnie Poohs in our relation shifts as well, where we would not choose this or that, but choose both!

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Does this article resonate with you? Please share it with your friends and leave your comment!

Please share with me your thoughts, experiences about monogamy and polygamy!

How do you sense the future ‘relationship model’ develops?

What kind of relationship model works for you right now?

When it works, why?

Thank you!

Picture of the Winnie Pooh from blogs.indiewire.com

Hawaiian Healing Technique Ho’oponopono is your magic key to your Freedom!

Posted on 28/08/2013 by Crystal

Today, I will write about one Hawaiian healing technique which is very ancient and has helped millions of people in the world, including me.

These times we are now facing – full of turmoil, chaos, violence and so much drama in the world would benefit greatly from this amazing Hawaiian technique!

I share first one article which I found online, written by Joe Vitale and share his vision and experience with the Hawaiian forgivness technique.

You can click on this video and let it play while you read this article.

HO’ OPONOPONO

Joe Vitale

Two years ago I heard about the therapist, who healed a whole department full of patients, who had the criminal background, as well as the psychic disorders. What was fascinating, was that the therapist managed to heal them even without meeting the patients.

Psychologist, who did some research on the patient’s files, looked inside of himself, to find the reason, how he had created that particular disease.

When I heard about this first time, I thought this must be some kind of a city legend. How could someone heal someone else, by healing yourself? How would anyone, even the best self help master manage to heal a psychopath with a criminal background?

This was completely non understandable and not logical, so I just left the story. One year later, the story came back to me. I heard that the therapist had used the Hawaiian healing method, called ho’oponopono. I had never heard of it, but I could not leave the story this time. If there was any truth in it, I had to get to know about it.

I understood about the ‘full responsibility’ situation, where I am responsible for what I am thinking and doing. Everything outside of me, is not up to me. I think most people see ‘responsibility like that’. We are responsible for our actions, not for someone else – but seems that is not the case!

Hawaiian therapist, who healed these people, taught me about the full responsibility from another perspective. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

Our first phone conversation took almost an hour. I wanted him to tell me the whole story of him working as a therapist. He explained that he had worked 4 years in the local state hospital. The department, where the psychopaths with the criminal background were held, was dangerous.

Usual story with this was the following. Psychologists left their positions just one month after they started working there. Many of the employees were on sick leave most of the time or just left work. Most people walked in the department leaning against the wall, being afraid of the patient’s attacks. This was not a very pleasant place – whether to live, visit or work.

Dr. Len told me, that he did not meet any of the patients. He just read their files in his office. While reading, he worked on himself and the patients started to heal. Couple of months later, the patients who had to be tied up before, could walk freely. Others who had to take loads of medicines did not have to do that any more. The others who seemed to be impossible, could be signed out. I was astonished.

This was not all.The changes influenced everything else as well. The employees wanted to come to work. Constant change of employees and quitting stopped. In the end they had more employees than patients, as the number of patients decreased and all the employees started to work again. For now this department is closed.

Then I had to ask a million dollar question:

‘So what did you do inside of you, what caused the change in these people?’ He answered: ‘I just healed this part of me, which they had created,’ he said.

I could not understand. Dr. Len explained, that in order to take full responsibility, it means you have to be responsible for everything what you have in life, as it is there – it is your responsibility.

So to say – the whole world is your creation.

This was too much to swallow. To take responsibility for your own words and actions is one thing, but to take responsibility of all the actions and words what is in my life, is another thing.

Though it is true that if you take full responsibility for your life, then all what you see, taste, touch or experience whatever way, is your responsibility, as it is in your life. These would not exist, if these would not be part of the projected outer world. The problem is not in them, but you. In order to change them, you have to change you.

I understand that this is difficult to accept, and to live accordingly. To accuse it is much easier. I understood while talking to Dr Len, that healing and his ho’oponopono healing method actually means loving yourself.

Watch this little video here – what to do when your problem will not let go here:

‘If you would love to change your life, you have to heal your life. If you would love to heal someone, even a criminal with psychic problems, you can do so by healing yourself.’

I asked Dr Len how he did heal himself. I wanted to know exactly what he did, when he looked into patient’s files. I just repeated: ‘ I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you’, he explained. I could not believe that was all. ‘That was all,’ he said.

Seems that self loving is the best way to develop yourself and if you do that, you can also change the world around you.

I will bring an example how that works. Someone sent me an email, which made me upset. Earlier I would have dealt with it by working on my energy centers and trying to be reasonable to that person who sent this email.

This time I decided to use Dr Len’s method. I started to repeat: ‘ I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, and thank you,’ not addressing it to anyone particular.

I just tried to activate some love, to heal something inside of me, which had created this situation. One hour later I got the response from that same person. He apologised for the last email. Remember: I did not do anything outside of me, for him to apologise in front of me. I even did not answer to his email.

Just simply saying ‘ I love you’ I had healed something in me, which was created by that person. Later I participated in a seminar by Dr Len about the ho’oponopono. Right now he is 70 years old and he is respected as a shaman grandfather and he has pulled back from active life. He loved my book (‘The Attractor Factor’).

He said that when I develop myself, the vibration of my books will rise and everyone can feel it when they read it. Shortly: if I do that, it will happen to my readers as well. I asked him how is it with the books which are out there already.

He said: ‘These are not out there somewhere,’ once again astonishing me with his deep presence. ‘These are still inside of you.’

To conclude. The outer world does not exist. It would take a whole book to explain this technique in full detail, as it deserves. So for now it should be enough to say, that in case you would love to change something in your life, there is only one place where you can turn it: it is inside of you. If you do that, do that with love!

Divine Creator!

Father, Mother and Child as One…

If I and my family, my relatives, my ancestors have insulted you –

your family, your relatives or your ancestors in our thoughts,

our our words or actions,

from the beginning of the time till this moment –

we ask your forgiveness!

Let it dissolve, break free and cut away all the negative memory blockages,

energies and vibrations and transform these into balanced light.

As it is said, it is done and cleared.

I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you!

Ho’oponopono

Ho’oponopono – Morrnah’s Prayer

Spirit, Superconscious, please locate the origin of my feelings,
thoughts of (__________fill in the blank with your belief, feeling, thoughts________).

Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.

Analyze it and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.

Come through all generations of time and eternity.

Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.

Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present. Filled with light and truth.

God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions.

Forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to this, these feelings thoughts.

____

Please share with me if you have any similar stories and if you have experienced the Hawaiian healing technique?

Would you be interested to adventure to the birth land of Ho’oponopono with me this winter and practise it there and even meet some of the local kahunas (local healers)? Read more about it here!

Happy me in Hawaii, after taking a course in Hawaiian healing techniques with the local Kahuna Harry Jim

How long are you going to postpone your dream life?

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

Do you have moments, where you tell yourself, ah, I will do that tomorrow? Or later?

And then a day goes by, a week, a month, a year…. and you have longer and longer piles of ideas which will never be a reality! They will remain into a bubble state, unless you choose something different.

We are so good to find reasons why we are not able to do or choose something. I must say I feel like I am perfect on that sometimes! What about you?

I asked what is one of the reasons I hold myself back, because I am the only person who can keep me back. One of the answers I got, was that I am afraid of the failure. I have had so many small failures recently, that I did not want to create any more.

I wanted to really find out what it was, so I took a break here on the blog as well. I do not want to do anything I do not like to do, as I know this does not have the energy I would love to share.

But what is a failure? It is the conclusion our mind makes, according to what we define as a success. So if your results do not show what your mind was looking for, you conclude it is a failure. This is a judgment. Wherever we have a judgment, we can not receive – whether it is money or energy or ideas. So I have done loads of work with my judgments about myself this last week through different courses I facilitated myself and strated to create again! Got loads of generative ideas, choices and results!

My challenge has been that I have had my own company for 6 years and have done loads of sales and marketing myself, spending many many hours daily by the computer. At some point I got so tired, I could not do anything online any more. I burned out. Totally. I did not delegate. Because wherever I did, it was another failure for me. I lost trust in people. In between I did not trust the Universe and did not let God be God. Then buttons like this would have done good for me!

One of the reasons why I joined Empower Network, was that I felt that they have many of the shortcuts and toolboxes which may go through things with ease and joy and glory. I would love to create more time for everything I feel I could contribute to people and the world.

So all you need is a choice! What is it you choose? To postpone things forever?

Or TAKE MASSIVE ACTION NOW!?

Henry Ford said:

Whether you think you can or can not – you are right!

Chris Record from Empower Network said you can not make excuses and money at the same time. Money is just an idea away. I agree.

Just two days ago I decided I choose something different. Stepping into my power I chose to create some events, one of these was a meeting with people in a spa, inspiring them to be in the water in a different way like mermaids for example. One of them had a fear of depth. I have developed a technique where people can go through the fear in a very short period of time. I helped this person to step through this within 15 minutes. The smile, the energy and joy she had, was so overwhelming, but so powerful, that it took my breath away! Time flew, 2 hours felt like 20 minutes. For me it is a sign that I am doing something which is part of my WHY here on Earth.

Also one very important thing for me is the place. The place where I live, work and play has to inspire me. If it does not, then I have to follow the energy and go to where it does.

One day I went to the cafe, and none of the plugs had electricity in it… So I left.

Today I followed the energy and went to the cafe where I felt inspired to work and got done loads of work within 2 hours, like in my office, being in a cafe surrounded by people, happy energy and support.

In conclusion, do whatever it takes to stop you to have your dream life now! Do whatever your guidance tells you! It never lies!

If you need some ideas how to do that and would love to choose a shortcut toolbox, let me know here!

Mother’s Day

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

I am always sad when people tell me about their mothers and tell me how they hate them or how terrible they are! I just tell them, lucky you, you at least have one! My mother died years ago and we do not even know how and why. My mother lost her parental rights when I was 12 years old, because she drank too much.

I became a mother when I was 19. I gave birth to a baby boy Sander in 1997. He is now 16 and he has been the very reason why I am still here on planet Earth. The moment we broke up with his father, was very challenging for me. At that point family life was all I had and losing that, was like losing life for me. I promised to keep it up and make a better future for me and my son Sander. I have kept my word and working on it every day to build up a life of our dreams and never giving up! I inspire him to think outside of the box and create his own reality!

I got two higher educations from Norway and South Africa and have traveled several times half way around the world and become an empowered woman who knows her purpose and her why and moves step by step towards new targets every day.

I am so grateful for my son that he chose me to be his mother. I have not certainly been the perfect mother, but we have learned a lot together, we have traveled quite a lot together and had fun quite a lot together. What else is possible now? He is finishing his 9th grade and I keep my fingers crossed for his final exams!

Just one week ago, I took him with me to testdrive a new Mercedes ML350, which costs 110 000 eur. The face on him while driving it, tells it all! The manhood what came out and the feeling he got was touching base with the abundance he truly is! Thank you for enjoying my crazy ideas and challenges. Love you Sander! I am also working now every day to make more choices in order to spend more time with Sander.

Here my son Sander and my sister Riti enjoying the sun with the brand new Mercedes ML 350.

Would you like to hear more, how to make more time to spend more time with your loved ones, your son, your sister or whoever is your family member and choose the life and luxury you fully deserve?

Ask me how! I have many tools and possibilities for you!

How to change your life into an everyday birthday?

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

I discovered that it was the 7th of May. My birth date, or as a ‘landing date’ as I called it.

My son called me and asked: ‘Mom, is it your birthday? Which one? Your landing date or the other one? I guess it does not matter, as you live your life like it is a birthday every day!’

I said it is the landing date – meaning the moment I was born into this body. I changed my birth name to Crystal Ra Laksmi in 2009 and it has another birthday, when I got the new name and also when I got my new aura (AuratransformationTM). It felt for me that my parents missed my right name when I was born.

This day was unlike anything else. I got calls, pictures, wishes like never before. I got a special visit from a woman on my birthday reminding me where to go and what to do next and I had a surprise book written about me to me in my email box and one of my best girlfriend made a surprise and showed up just suddenly together with my sister.

We went out to eat the salad first, then to another place to eat some sweets and I ate another salad and to the Estonian cafe called Chicago, where I got my birthday fireworks. On our way there I stopped people on the street and asked them what is their wish for my birthday and I gathered 11 amazing birthday wishes! To have a purpose, to not complain, to have loads of children, a good husband and a nice life, even gold and the menue from the Universe.

Then back to walk on the streets and to the street mucisian with the magic. It was amazing how different it was to have a birthday full of empowered people and their support and wishes. Amazing! Thank you so much!

So how to change your life into a constant birthday? I have a magic solutions! Ask me!

Birthday present – a shortcut!

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

I had the most amazing birthday in Tallinn, Estonia with my loved ones!

In the very end of the day, me and my two girlfriends we started to walk in the old town of Tallinn, the capital of Estonia. We started to go up.

I started to tell the story about the shortcuts and how taking shortcuts actually is an amazing thing, as then you will find people who take the shortcuts as well, you will have more time for fun and the rest. How amazing is this?

While I talked about it we started to go up Lühike Jalg (Short Leg) street. There is a legend, that Tallinn is limping, and it is because we have two streets – one is Short Leg, other one Pikk Jalg (Long Leg). So we heard some guitar music and it was so beautiful and mystical. Unbelieavable.

I stopped in front of the street musician, who was a sweet Russian man, I put him some money and asked if he had some birthday songs for me. He did and we danced with one of my girlfriends. We were about to leave after the song when he invited me to listen to one more. I stepped over the edge and wanted to sit by his side. He stood up and offered me his place where he was sitting. It was amazingly kind. He had made this little strong pillow to sit on (on the stone).

So I sat down, he started to sing, my girlfriends were watching and the whole place turned into a magical wonderland, like in the bubble. I did not understand the words, but tears started to run down my eyes and it was so powerful, that I could not stop crying. So he finally stopped and was thankful, gave me a small kiss and a hug and good bye. We took the steps up and got to the Long Leg.

Only after we got down to another street I understood how I had talked about the shortcuts and how we had just taken one and experienced the most beautiful instant magic walking on the Short Leg (equal to a shortcut)!!!

Would you like to experience more shortcuts? Empower Network is one of my shortcuts! I have never made any money on online marketing business and I have already made some money. So this is working, it is a shortcut to your sustainable financial freedom in life and not only!

My other shortcuts are AuraTransformationTM, Water therapy, Access ConsciousnessTM, Organic StretchingTM, tantra etc. Ask me more about these techniques.

Here is a little video memory, done by me dear girlfriend Tiina Liimandi. Thank you all who showed up, it was so much fun!

There is always sun above the clouds!

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

This trip back to Europe has been an amazing gift. Firstly I got seated by an amazing woman Katrine from Den-mark and in addition to a French woman Goenka, both like my twin sisters in many ways. What a synchronicity!!

I got guided to that particular side and told that it was there the seat D is located. So I trusted what was told and sat down. Later came Goenka and I told her to go to the other side. She did. When the food was coming, I got the vegetarian meal (which I also remember that I ordered) but came out later did not go through. So what happened was that I got Goenka’s special vegan meal, and she almost was left with nothing. The man on service managed in the end to get her all kinds of stuff, so she ended up having a gourmet meal with loads of extras. She did not resist or anything, just accepted whatever was happening

Katrine spent 3 last months in Central America going from one farm to another, working in different places and exploring the countries. She seemed to be filled with sun, fun and knowledge of herbs and local knowledge. How amazing is this? She beamed of calmness and peace. We shared our ideas of different ways of living and that we could live outside in the warm weather and eat the amazing fruits straight from the trees.

Goenka is a woman from France, who has spent the last 20 years in India and Asia learning and absorbing different kind, especially on the spiritual ways of living. She even invented some new dance forms and massage.

I have also been practising a spiritual approach the recent days that ‘the world is a mirror’ as you look at it and as you give out, so will it give back to you, and it feels it is literally so on every field. Try it out yourself! So I thought, how amazing – I am walking around, saying the words: My world takes care of me and I get the vegetarian meal which I did not order and get to sit on the ‘wrong’ seat.

Do you believe in coincidences or what is this actually?

The metaphysical and material world dancing?

And who are we?

Depends on what we choose! Kings or queens or victims of our circumstances?

So at one point Katrine said, I love it when you fly with the plane, you can be sure, that up there is always sun, up there above the clouds! And I just felt that everything what happened was actually a message, that this knowing may change circumstances around us.

It may create a tune, a vibration, so that if something does not quite go exactly how we planned, we can actually just remind ourselves about the sun above the clouds and forget all about the clouds. And then just like that magic happens!I introduced them to the superwoman ideas and my shirt as well!

So hope to see them in our superwomen team!

Mahalo Mexico!

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

Entrance from the April 30th, 2013

2,5 months ago I escaped to Mexico. On the right hand side you see on the picture how I looked the first day when I got here. I looked pretty bad. Exhausted of fights, being in fear and not being able to create and live my dream life because of many limitations I had stupidly chosen and created in my life. I had got myself so stuck that there was no way out. I thought so.

Luckily with the help of friends I got to fly to Cancun. It took me 3 weeks to get my health back on track (coughing and lungs and high fever) and to pull myself together again took almost a month. My core turnover and breakthrough happened thanks to Greta Campagnolo from Canada, my sponsor in Empower Network, who totally believes in me and is a total kick ass woman, who kicked me so far that I managed to get donations around 1000 usd to get myself to Chicago and experience other 5000 people with me there.

On this picture on your left, I am all balanced and happy, 2,5 months later, because of the right locations and right people and business choices I did. It is very important to listen to the inner guidance! That is one of my keys to the success!

In Mexico I worked a lot online. Every day I worked online and to heal my body, went to the local beach, in the very end I had some trips to Tulum Mayan ruins and also to Akumal turtle bay. It was an amazing experience to finalize my stay.

What do I love about Mexico?

The first time I was in Mexico was last year in Puerto Vallarta, where I stayed with my friends on their sailing boat, after that with a local family in Sayulita. It was a time full of adventures and challenges, but I really loved it. This time I got many new business ideas and also some of them are already giving fruits and if I keep it like that, will create my new sustainable future step by step.

I love Mexican people. They are humble and creative and innovative, they do not complain, even if they do not have money or luxurious place to live. The whole village here is full of small enterprises and they all must function, as they are all opened all the time! I love the way they focus on their food and how many variations they have. I love how they take care of their family. I love the kindness they have. I love that they are dedicated whether it is a family or bills to pay or business to do. I love that there are good public transports to every possible place here.

Anni Sennov has said that Mexico is the golden and crystal energy platform for new time energy. I truly believe so. I felt so good here, much better than in London or Estonia. I love the laid back fishing village life and that everything is simple. For a climate refugee a perfect spot.

The costs are 10 times or more cheaper than in London and maybe 2-3 times cheaper than in Estonia. To have the sun and an opportunity to go to swim in the Caribbean every single day is a jackpot itself! I lived with a Mexican family and it was nice and quiet place. The family was very helpful and always there if I needed something. How lucky am I? My dear friend Veronika Osawe invited me to this family as she stayed with them for some time herself. There is so much abundance here, especially in the nature.

I do not think they use it all very sustainably (like the solar power etc). There is a bit of lack consciousness and seems that when people get things going, they stey pretty much in the same known area. But I love the business mindness what they have here, everyone is doing something, whether it is playing music on the beach, selling snacks or just driving around with a little food counter in the village or renting rooms. I have learned so much to open my eyes in a different way to see possibilities!

I did not manage to travel so much this time here for several reasons, but I got back to my own platform, to my own power and started to believe in myself and got my health back on track. Partly the help was Mexico itself, its sun and the ocean and partly it was the Empower Network Chicago event, where I got myself back again. Plus all the amazing people who have supported me here, or online. Will be back soon! If you are lost as well and do not know where to go and how or who you are or are just confused, let me know, maybe I can ask you some questions, and by sharing my story, you could get inspired and live the life of your dreams as well. That would make me so happy! More than anything! To see others to succeed!

How far do we get if we try to be like others?

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

Entrance from the end of April, 2013, Cancun, Mexico

I am now packing my stuff to leave Mexico and the last day was too busy even for a blog, but will do some extras to make it up!

Yesterday I got a thought of how much of my life I have wasted because I wanted to be like others or to fit in or to do like others were doing in order for me to be recognized and accepted. How far did it get me? Not very far, I got stuck every single time.

After the Chicago event I have been stepping into my own power more and more with every single breath I take. Sometimes it comes up quite abruptly like a little child, who tries to crawl and then to stand up and falls and hits herself. But I am much better already.

I thought back of so many relationships where I have lost myself exactly because I wanted to be liked or appreciated or accepted! And when I lost myself, I felt contracted, small and several times almost got killed. All that urge was rooted in the uncertainty of myself being me.

What if noone will be with me if I am truly me?

That was my everyday question.

In Chicago I chose a personal commitment to totally stand in my power and step into it beyond my wildest dreams. Every day it has brought me more challenges, but I am learning more and more how to balance my life on all fronts. It has not been easy, but I am better with every step and enjoying my empowerment more and more!

One of the core keys I have discovered within the last days is to be me and let others be who they are.

Simple as that. But what happens most of the time is that we would like that others would think or act the same way as we do or that we change ourselves so that they would like us more. I have discovered that when people do not like me it is their choice and I do not fight with it any more. I let them be and go, and focus on people who empower me because with them I can be fully me and be accepted exactly as I am. It empowers me and makes me grow and expand without any limits!

What about you? How much energy and attention do you put into wanting the others to like you? In the core bottom it is all connected to the fear of judgment. If you take that away, let your barriers down, what would happen next? I do not know, try it out and let me know!

Stepping into your own power

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

Entrance from the end of April 2013

I just arrived from Akumel today (still in Mexico), where I had an amazing day’s adventure with a lady Julie Ann from Michigan, whom I met yesterday in Tulum. We swam with many sea turtles, saw some amazing manta rays and corals. Will write another blog about that later.

But just on my way home, some of the local dogs started to bark, one of them so bad, that started to come after me. I stayed in my power but it was about to bite me. I was surprised what was happening, as I was in a very good mood and in good vibes, unless I got some entity hanging onto me from the bus or smth.

Anyway I did some more steps and then suddenly turned back and hit my foot down on the ground and shouted to the dog to hold back and go back to his gate. I said it in a very nasty Estonian. Maybe the dog got shocked by it, or just totally got the point? It just ran away the next second.

When I walked further the whole village started to sound like a dog choir. Isn’t that interesting. It is really like a ripple!

I then asked myself what was actually happening? I got an inner answer. If you are not really in your power, you get situations like that to check on you. As I did what I did, it was fine, the power was there. I also have noticed recently that many children do that as well. They can be all whiny until you let them know how things are and where the boundaries go.

I thanked the dog, and knew that it is probably not so okay to walk during the night here, as the dogs are just protecting their properties as well.

So even a dog can contribute to us, if we are opened! Wow, thank you!

Habits make you who you are!

Posted on 24/08/2013 by Crystal

Let me introduce you to my two new friends: Mr Dicipline and Mrs Priorities. My new friends who help me to succeed and constantly create new sustainable life on all levels!

I thought what would it take to change some of my bad habits and self sabotaging patterns?

Sleeping patterns?

The sleeping patterns have been very messed up recently. Because of the time difference with Europe is pretty bad (8 hours) it is almost impossible to get connected if you do not get up superearly or stay up late.

Today the idea came that what would happen if I would not sleep during the night, I would choose to step into my business powerwoman and just shoot the whole night and the day, until I drop. Which gave me an experience that I slept only 3 hours during that day (2 plus 1) and the rest of the day was super effective. I listened to my body fully and acted accordingly. And I changed the pattern in cooperation with my body! Wow!

Postpone everything to the last moment?

One of the patterns which has been really bad – has been to postpone everything I have to do to the last moment and that creates a lot of stress. So what would it take to change that? Maybe to do something totally different?

Change that with Empower Network!

What I find fascinating about Empower Network, is that it gives you an opportunity to self discipline yourself together with others. My problem the recent years have been that I have too much time, so I am not very good at planning or organizing myself. This way not much gets done and I destroy myself more and more.

8 commitments can help!

If you have the 8 commitments in Empower Network and keep them, plus have the group’s support, it gives you aslo a possibility to take the necessary steps to succeed. Because for sure if you change your habits, also people you had around you, will change and you will succeed. It is just so easy and so simple!

These have been the two things I have been missing in my life and some of my reasons to join the Empower Network. What are yours?

My personal experience with the AuraTransformation™

Posted on 23/08/2013 by Crystal

Photo by C.R.Laksmi – November 2017, Hawaii

I am happy to share with you an amazing modality which has completely changed my life.

I got my AuraTransformation™ in February 2007 and became an Aura Mediator™ in August the same year. I feel honored to have had the opportunity to introduce AuraTransformation™ to Estonia in September 2007. I was part of the Aura Instructor™ program from September 2008 to February 2010. I have done many AuraTransformations™ over these years all over the world and still enjoy the process very much. For me it has been the greatest and fastest highway to myself. It has not been a quick fix or a walk in the rose garden, but I am much more connected with who I am, where I am going, what I am doing with my life and how I am contributing to the planet and for the future generations! Continue reading →

Birth of Crystal Poppins

Posted on 23/08/2013 by Crystal

During the last 2 years when I have been orbiting the world, not having a base, I have noticed some patterns.

Example 1

I stayed with a girlfriend. I did some of my energy and body processes on her, and stayed with her one week. Within a week, she had a new place to live, a new job and a new intimate friend!!???

Example 2

I stayed with a Mexican family for a month and a half. By the end of that time I did Bars for around 50 relatives (all for free to practice) and the hostess started to speak fluent English by the end of my stay and started to translate my speaking to the locals. By the end of my stay, we cooperated with her and enrolled 9 people in the very first Access Bars Class I helped to organise!!!

Example 3

I stayed with a friend in London for two and a half months. I gave him ideas how to change his house (clear the clutter, put things in order, reorganize things). I noticed how his money was all over the place and how many money problems he had. I noted all these details and gave feedback to him. By the end of my time there, one of his client lists was full and had a waiting list, the second one got activated as well and more was coming in. He was more open to life, knew more about tantra and consciousness, changed his thinking and had new girlfriends. His son started a business venture which has already made both of them money. His son broke up with his previous girlfriend as I supported him as well, and met a new one who was much more suitable for him. My friend also won in lottery and got some new opportunities and clients every day. The knowledge I shared with him was worth around 10 000 pounds, the value he managed to manifest in money was around 8000 pounds. So this way, from Mary Poppins, Crystal Poppins was born! Thank you my friend!

Example 4

One of my last boyfriends who lived with me for a year and a half, I had to kick out of my apartment and out of my life in the end. Hooponopono. He was so angry and I was the enemy nr 1. Already in my studio, he and his mom started a club for handicrafts. In a year’s time they opened up a shop and built up a new business. He now travels the world, while the shop earns him money and value. Perhaps I was not so bad to him after all?:)

Example 5

I did some Access Bars classes here and there and more stories like this ended up in my mailbox, constantly! I stopped and asked myself. Wait a minute! This is Crystal Poppins!

You can find her services under the services link.

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Crystal Poppins having fun in the Hawaiian jungle

New websites are like new babies!

Posted on 22/08/2013 by Crystal

Last week I launched my new Estonian site www.crystalralaksmi.com/eesti and it was a funny and crazy experience. One Estonian journalist contacted me after I got my notes about the future blog post up on my personal FB message board. She asked me to get the link so she could set it up to her online magazine. I knew what that would mean. Loads of traffic. What was missing was the proper systematic site. So I hit it off with 3-4 other people in various parts of the world (London, Paris, San Diego, Tallinn, Tartu, Pärnu) to get all the bits and pieces together. We made it! Wohoo! It is still just the beginning. Loads of extra work to put in.

I experienced the power of full cooperation for the first time in my life on that level. It was so intense – I worked on the content and everything else for a constant 50 hrs. One of the nights I just got so tired, that left for bed. In the morning I had an amazing surprise as some of the bits were in place as someone from the team had fixed it. First time in life I started to love the different time zones.

I am now setting up the Hawaii adventure trips and this site has to get all in place as soon as possible. We have experienced some real fun and challenge with these pages. How the themes can be a limitation even though it looks beautiful.

So all in all it reminds me of a process of becoming a mother. You have an idea to become a mother and then start to take steps in order to make it happen. The same with the website. You have an idea, you start to put them together into a nice system and make it happen. Then it will be born and now it is your turn to take care of it in the best way you can. You can make it nice with colours and pictures (like putting clothes on a baby) and make it contribute to you. Sure, the first weeks and months it needs a lot of your attention, like a little baby does. Later on, it can crawl and walk on its own and if not, you can get someone to help you with that.

So here is my new baby – www.crystalralaksmi.com – the English website to serve me and you and make all the possible fun happening. All your ideas, suggestions are truly welcome! Thank you!

Thank you all for contributing for my website making process:

Marie Nicole Lapointe (design, plug ins and more) (San Diego) jackieofalltrades.biz

Kristi Laur (technical help and contact form and other tips) (Tallinn)

kristi.pesake.com/wordpress/ee/

Maiko Koort (technical help with the pages) (Tartu) www.mweb.ee

Tiina Liimandi (pictures, design, content feedback) (Pärnu) www.kohalolu.com

Mo Elnadi (social media) (London) www.crunchbase.com/person/mo-elnadi

Chapi Tchoupi (technical and internet) (Paris)

Katrin Haiba (English content clearing) (New York) www.facebook.com/DreamboatAdventures

Please share your stories about your making the web page experiences and what tricks have you learned?

Funny stories with making websites?

Never give up!

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

The last days have been a total chaos for me.

I have made a choice.

To change and step up.

To once again open my wings which I have kept closed for a while.

Being scared to die.

As I flied once so high!

Is that the moment when you fly out from the nest and do not believe you can fly?

All the doors which have been opening, just closed again?

So you sit there in total darkness.

Nothing moves.

Total Silence.

Emptiness.

Free fall.

.

.

And whatever move you do,

everything goes against you or stops or runs away.

So you look for the answer.

As you have been told it comes from the outside.

You have to do something.

You have to act somehow to take action.

The solution must always be outside of you.

But what if in the darkest darkness

In the deepest depth

In the biggest storm

You just sit down

And look inside?

Maybe the biggest key –

the solution

lies in you –

in the silence –

in the moment –

while the chaos and storm whirls around you?

What if the light in the end of the tunnel is

actually inside of your core being?

Waiting to be discovered?

So that you would stop to look outside

and stop to believe that someone else knows

what is light in the end fo the tunnel for you?

What is best for you?

What to do or act?

And if you are the light –

Where is there to go?

Written in Mexico, Cancun, April 18th

Luck or Choice – that is the Question!

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

Humans are not meant to stay all the time the same. We are meant to grow. Jump out from our boxes and comfort zones and start to take steps, even if the danger is going to be out there.

Before coming to Chicago, I checked the weather forecast. It was all warning for big storms, tornado and thunderstorms and flooding. I was sure that my flight will be cancelled, but then I stopped for a moment! Wait a minute, I did not even buy the travel insurance as I chose not to have that experience! I corrected my thoughts and aligned it again. I also did some talking to the molecules of the storm. You know we are all magicians and we can do that! So the results?

The whole trip went well, no problem, everything perfect. Just a bit bumpy landing.Is it luck or a choice? It is up to you choose!

My hostess was amazing, a true aloha person, one step ahead at all times. I was treated with a grilled salmon and an amazing fresh salad. On top of it, the desert was 2 bits of organic chocolate, how did I really get so lucky!

So it is all flooding here in Chicago and we hope everyone gets to the event on time! This is my first deepdiving into Empower Network and I maybe should have taken my mask and snorkel with me? Or I just hold my breath! Superexcited!

Ask and you will receive!

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

Wow, my first event with Empower Network is now behind me. I ran out of words!

I share first what my whole journey coming here to Chicago has been like and what it has done to me and hopefully it will inspire you to do and be whatever you choose without any limits!

I have had problems with asking for help or money for years. For me it was equal of saying –I do not manage my life and I am weak. So very many times, I did not ask. I stayed in my pity and felt a failure. I know many people do that. But what if you would not? What would happen then?

1 week ago I joined Empower Network. 4 days later I came to the Chicago event by getting money for the travels through donations from friends all over the world! I arrived despite to the fact of the flood and bad weather. I got here. I took contact with a local friend, who offered me accommondation. How can it get better than this?

The first day was amazing, there was so much to take in, 5000 people – all kinds of cultures, nationalities, backgrounds. The event got going so much that it finished 2,5 hours later. I missed my train back.

There I was sitting in one of the hotel lobbys and asking in one of the women’s group for help online. 5 minutes later, there came a call from 2 women: Greta Marie Campagnolo Lisa Burnham to share their room with me. As the other days it was also very difficult with the transport, I stayed for 2 more nights!!! How amazing is this? What a gift!!

For me this was something amazing. I have not felt such kindness and such care for a long time. How amazing is this? I sent out a call and 5 minutes later, I was offered a kind solution? I was empowered – they were empowered. The task for the night was to see a dream and before falling asleep I thanked them for gifting me a dream. In the lobby I could not have slept at all.

It reminded me that this same morning I suddenly got 2 tickets in the chase of one, as the tickets were sold out. I saw someone having problems with the ticket in the registration and donated the other ticket to the registration crew in case it was needed for someone. So what goes around, comes around! Be careful! It is dangerous to be kind!

What I learned from this is – never underestimate one act of kindness, as you never know when you gonna need one as well. Asking for me is not any more an act of poverty or weakness, it is about the courage to tell out loud what is it you need or what has happened. I just wonder what would the world be like if everyone would do that!???

Not only did I get a bed to sleep in, I even got to borrow the T shirt from one of the women: with a Inner Badass message! Wicked eh?

It is all about reframing it!

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

During the weekend Empower Network Event, Chris Record, who is the leader of the team Take Massive Action shared his ideas how re-framing helps to go through challenges and problems.

I agree. This morning I started to come back from Rosemont to Grayslake, and found out that I just had missed the train and the next one was about to come in 3 hours time. I walked to the first hotel lobby, sat down and wrote some blog posts, as they did not have free internet there. I had really fun, being surrounded by all the people leaving after the event and writing at the same time. I re-framed it!I got to my next train station in Praire Crossing and came out that all the trains, which pass within the next 3 hours do not stop in the next particulat stop where I had to go. So what else to do? I walked into the nearest Photoshop and asked directions.Ask and you shall receive! She would have given me a lift, but was a bit busy.

The owner was really nice and even printed me the map. There were also no taxis either. The walk took around 1 hour 45 minutes. The weather was good, sunny, and even though here in U.S.A there are no pavements for pedestrians, I made my way back. When people see someone walking by the road here, my local friend said that the police may come and ask what is the problem, as everyone here are driving the cars.

But i enjoyed my walk after almost sitting 8 – 10 hours a day during the event. There was no sign to the train station either, so I luckily met 1 person on the street and could ask where to turn.

I got back to my location safe and felt gratitude for the adventure and that I re-framed the experience. The old me would have started to selfpity myself and feel bad, I felt good for having had the adventure and a walk, even though timewise it took me as much time to get from another part of Chicago to here almost the same time as from Mexico to Chicago. But if one of your assets is time, it is no problem. It is all about re-framing! Who knows maybe all my challenges can help someone in the future as I share that as my story!

Check the video of reframing here

Talking to the stranger

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

I sat down at the airport and there I saw a young man holding a hand on a woman and telling her things. The connection, energy was very sweet, powerful and close. When he left I asked her if that was her son, and she said no, it was her son’s friend who was so kind and drove her all the way to the airport (3 hrs drive one way). It was like 02.30 am. I asked more about her and she shared that she is just about to divorce and going to see her family in New Mexico and stay there to calm down for some weeks. Then she asked me where I am at and up to. I told her that I have been in a very challenging place and now taking my steps to get back into my own power and had an amazing weekend in Chicago with loads of people and world leader’s. She listened carefully.

Talking to each other, our eyes got wet, there was a connection, energy. Total strangers, who had just talked out of the blue like 10 minutes. We talked about our dreams, our challenges and our dreams and needs. How amazing is that?

I personally feel that the energy and connection I have to myself is totally different after this weekend. Something totally shifted in me and the depth and presence which has come from it is mindblowing. I feel that I am finally deepdiving on land. I will give this woman my card, and if she chooses to, maybe I am so lucky to see her at some later point in my life and share more who knows?

Never underestimate a talk to the stranger! As you never know what may come out of it. Maybe even a new friendship or new miracles! I do not even know the name of the woman, but she touched me with her being and presence. I am so grateful for her openness sharing something so vulnerable as the divorce can be. I feel gifted, by the touch of her being tonight. The presence. I believe in her. I told her so. I told her that she is an amazing person. Her eyes got wet again. Sometimes a kind word or two is all what can make your day or night. She made mine. Thank you stranger!

How to follow the signs?

Posted on 11/08/2013 by Crystal

I had an interesting incident in Chicago Midway airport. I had to go to the toilet and tried to find it real quick, I looked at the signs on the walls and could not see one of them, so went downstairs, which took me much more time. The sign I needed was more up, so if I had looked more up I could have saved some time. Sometimes in life you need just this little to find your way.

Then I thought how amazing is this, as this is often happening with many people in life as well, that we look for signs and then miss one of it because of the stress or not being fully present? What would it take for us to always follow our signs directly, so we get where we would like to get with full support and ease right away?